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What is Care?
Care gets treated like a feeling, something you either have for someone or don’t. That’s not quite right.
Care is a pattern of specific, repeatable actions that make someone else's work or life better.
It's something you do, not just something you think or feel. A team can have plenty of warmth around the office and still be careless with each other in practice. A team, family or community that seems reserved can be full of people quietly doing the specific things that make each other's lives easier.
That is what care looks like, and it's why care matters so much in communities: they exist to improve the lives of their members.
Care is something you do, not just something you feel
Single acts of care matter, but patterns of care work differently. What actually changes a relationship, a team or a community is the build-up of specific acts.
A specific act
Showing up reliably
Being there, consistently, when you said you would be.
A specific act
Telling the truth early
Telling someone something true before they have to ask.
A specific act
Noticing the need
Noticing what someone needs before they say it out loud.
"Care more" is too general to act on. Specific acts are different: they can be learned, practised and repeated.
How care becomes trust
When the right kind of care meets what a person actually needs, and it happens again and again, something shifts. They start to expect it. They begin to trust that it will be there next time. That is how care becomes trust.
Why it matters to show care
Most workplaces and communities talk about care as a value or a nice-to-have, which quietly suggests that caring is optional. Naming care as a set of specific behaviours makes it something a team can practise, notice when it's missing, and get better at, like any other skill.
Where to go next
The 3Cs of Care breaks that skill down into three practical modes. You can also explore the full breakdown across the categories of care and the many specific kinds of care, with the research behind all of it on Research on Care.
More on care
Each page in the Care hub takes a different angle. Next up: The 3Cs of Care.
- What is Care?
- The 3Cs of Care
- Categories of Care
- Kinds of Care
- Research on Care
Other knowledge hubs: Trust Community and Belonging coming soon All of Systems of People
Bring this to your team
This is one piece of a larger framework I teach live. If your team wants to build these habits together, not just read about them, the Caring, Careful, Not Careless workshop is built for exactly that.
“His message is easy to understand and apply immediately. I don’t think it would be too dramatic to say the 3Cs have really transformed the way I look at life.”Sarah Nicole Martin, Founder & CEO, Optimal Affect
Waypoint Retreat attendee
